[RP Advice] I Like My Pairing, You Like Yours (No Ship-Shaming Please)
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Admin’s Note: A friend of mine of another RP site was recently attacked tonight for a pairing they liked, and brought this issue to my attention. Without further adieu, I will cover this straight away in hopes of helping anyone else.

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Everybody is allowed to have their shippings, regardless if others approve of it or not. In the end, that person behind the screen will still like that pairing. It matters not what we like in a pairing, even if it’s the most atrocious thing we ever seen or heard of. It’s one thing to say you dislike a pairing, but you’re crossing the line if you feel it’s okay to attack these people for what they like.

Many RolePlay partners whom have approached me, like Noctis x Luna because that’s the game’s story. They can feel that way about the shipping, even if I don’t. Some people do respect that I do not ship it, others do try to convince me otherwise because it’s in the game. Some of those same people think it’s cool I like the Noctis x Lightning pairing due to the original idea behind FFXIV before things were changed. I like the pairing, others do not, and that’s perfectly okay as long as we respect each other’s opinions.

Note: I used to be a shipper myself, but not anymore due to my own experiences that have been generalized as a whole in this segment.

Also Note: I respect what people choose to ship, but my exceptions will be excluded from this segment as I wish to abide by this site's Terms of Policy.

Don’t become that kind of person who attacks people for the pairings they like, you’re literally bullying them by doing this. Some even take it so far as to actually threaten someone who likes a shipping. They like what they like, and you like what you like, is it really so hard to accept that? There’s many MANY shippings I do not like, but I don’t choose make people feel bad about it just because I don’t like their choices.

If you have an issue with someone’s choice of pairing, refrain from being aggressive with them and just kindly tell them that you don’t like their choice but you respect it. It’s better to respect one’s opinions in these matters, rather than bully them over what you don’t like. Be kind to yourself and to your partners, respect them as they would for you.